Restoring a Home:Rebuilding a Soul


The home on 9 Greenmount Avenue has a unique story to tell. One of hope, love, and restoration. PHOTOS BY JASMINE WILLIS

By Jasmine Willis


DANSVILLE — One woman is working to restore a local historic home, and in the process has rebuilt her soul.


On a tour of the home, Sonja Bates, the lady in charge of the renovations, informed this reporter about all the intense detail that goes into rebuilding a historic home.


The 120-year-old Colonial house that has stood firm at 9 Greenmount Avenue has a grand story. It began with the Shaw family who owned the farm land in 1900, and left their marks in various places of the concrete during progressive stages of finishing the stone mortar foundation. The family spared no expense in the quality of the building materials; it is framed in super dense hemlock which ensured it would stand any of life’s storms. The front porch originally was a four-half-wood and stone column structure with stone knee walls that matched its’ stone foundation which today is now covered in stucco. "The strength of the build even 120 years later has lent itself to every door jam and window to remain square with every room at a nine-foot-height.  The original finishing touches of the interior in beautiful American Chestnut tall baseboards includes every window and door trimmed and finished with a tall header and the stairs surrounded in tall wood wainscoting with the stain color dark oxidized with age," Bates said."Even though it’s a Colonial home, Victorian Spindles were used in three different accent areas of the downstairs for additional flare to coordinate with the elaborate wallpaper that no longer exists. There are two custom built in wall cabinets and two original tin decorative ceilings out of the original four that remain. There are three built in nooks in the house, one is a long wall to wall window seat in an upstairs sitting room, one underneath the stairs in the front receiving room, and another was a kiddy corner for the children to dine or do their school work off the dining room.  The wallpaper in some rooms had gold or silver leafed finishes with two foot borders had once been hung on all the walls including the ceilings in every room minus the metal ceilings.  The remnants were discovered inside closets, ceilings and walls as some original plaster walls were replaced with new drywall." The wonder of a home this age is that no paint was ever used except to coat the decorative tin ceilings. So no lead paint worries for any future homeowner.  All wood flooring flows throughout the house with two rooms that have wall to wall carpeting for more creature comfort. There are plenty of things unique about the house that makes it part of the fabric of historic Dansville when you visit the quaint downtown shops and restaurants to find original hard wood floors and decorative tin ceilings as well.


"But more importantly the history of the Shaw family, that no longer owns this property, is still connected to its’ story. All one would have to do is drive down the end of Greenmount Avenue to the Dansville Cemetry to find a large headstone to a Shaw family member resting peacefully a walking distance from home," Bates added.

The secret wooden nook that held important documents in the old times. PHOTO BY SONJA BATES

Bates has been renovating historic homes since her family bought an old farmhouse when she was 10-years-old. Her father didn’t want to hire extra help, so it became a family project to restore it themselves.


“I learned a lot from my father when I was 10 years old. I was always interested in old homes even before that. When I was seven years old I recall being very interested in historic homes. My father didn’t see the need to hire anyone since he saw the family as free labor. We renovated the farmhouse all by ourselves,” she said. “I went on to buy my own home in Maryland when I was older, and I renovated that all by myself. I worked for various investors flipping properties over the years. I designed kitchens for five years and designed bathrooms for two years. Most of the work I am doing on this house I have done all by myself. I had some help with the front porch from a local company.”


Original ceiling that Bates is refurbishing in the coal room. PHOTOS BY JASMINE WILLIS

Bates of New Jersey first became aware of this home when her best friend, Bobbi Bernstein purchased the home a few years back. Bernstein needed some help restoring the home after it wouldn’t sell on the market. Bates stepped in and asked if she could be the one to renovate the house.


Bates began working on the home in July 2017 just getting an assessment of what was needed to be done. She has worked two years straight on the project after taking a few breaks to get supplies and things for the home. It has been a healing project for her since she has openly expressed that she suffers from Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or CPTSD, Depression and Anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD. After losing her home and everything she worked so hard for in Maryland; it caused a series of court battles. A law was passed to keep this injustice from ever happening to another homeowner in that state. It caused a wound in her life that turned into CPTSD and PTSD, which controlled her life for a long time.


“You get Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder when you have to relive the trauma multiple times. It is worse than Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It is more common in women and children. These are the most common victims of intense abuse. Women and Children are victims of physical, sexual, psychological, and verbal abuse. Some cases are if children are horribly abused, seen someone die, been a burn victim, or in a terrible accident. There are over 20 people a day who commit suicide because of this disorder,” Bates said. “The brain needs to feel normal. There is a higher risk if you are raised in an abusive home.”

Bates continued to explain the effects of this disorder in her life, “I have been resilient my whole life. Even though I suffered from depression and anxiety I had to bounce back a lot. When this trauma happened to me, I found out I couldn’t bounce back. This trauma had defeated me, and it was terrifying. I was completely out of control. I felt my brain was committing mutiny against me. I felt I was in a fog all of the time and a huge burden on everyone. Having this disease is like having memory loss. It takes away huge junks of your life. The drugs and therapy never helped so I had to find something to bring me back. I tried yoga, dance, prayer, reading, painting, mindfulness, artwork, and anything to bring myself back. Not every person who has this is the same, and they can’t be treated the same way. You have a lot of bad days where you feel like you can’t save yourself, so how can you save anyone else.”


Bates suffered a lot from “flashbacks” that would take her to places she did not want to go.


“I couldn’t turn off my flashbacks. I was unable to sleep or turn off the tape inside of my head. I would turn on the TV for hours and have that white noise to help me fall asleep. Finally they gave me the same drugs they use to help the military that suffer from this disorder. It was able to put up walls to my flashbacks,” Bates said. “The reason why the brain cannot think about anything else but the trauma is because the brain can’t make sense of it. It is in constant shock and anger over what happened. The brain is arguing with the trauma over and over. It can’t accept the trauma. You live in fear all of the time. I fought with my past all of the time, and I got into a brain trap. You can’t measure the years lost to this disorder.”


For more information on this disorder and where to get treated visit https://www.healthline.com/health/cptsd


Bates wants others to know that no matter what you struggle with in your life you can battle your demons. You can find something that brings you back. Renovating this home has saved her life.


The dragonfly lamp symbolize healing to Bates as she repairs herself. PHOTO BY JASMINE WILLIS

Bates walked this reporter through the beautiful Colonial Era home to show me what she has done, and what still needs to be done in a few months. The homeowner is hoping to have it on the market by early Summer this year.


There is a secret nook that stored important documents in the entertainment room. The original wood is all there since wealthy people never painted their walls, but they would cover it in wallpaper instead to show high class. There are large wooden antique doors that will be put in place in the entertainment room. The paint used on the interior needs to be mixed very carefully and used in that time period. The kitchen ceiling had to be removed to reveal the original Tin Ceiling from the home. It will need a lot of work done. The dining room, bathroom, and kitchen have these old Tin Ceilings. Since the entire home was built with Hemlock wood there is not a single drafty spot in the home.


You can even get a one-of-a-kind treasure like this oil painting at the ReHouse Store. PHOTOS BY JASMINE WILLIS

The Pine Cabinet that was made above the children’s bench was made by a local 120 years ago named C. A. Aman. Bates will turn it into chestnut to match the rest of the home, and the little nook area will become an adult corner with wines and coffee.


Bates knew how rare Chestnut wood has become so when a man donated some of it to her to restore the home she was pleased. Much of that has been used in the kitchen. She is repurposing everything in the home.


Bates had to bring some modern things into the home such as a brand-new stove, fridge,

kitchen sink, plumbing, heating, electric, and laundry facility.


“I am going to have a hard time leaving this home. It has become a huge part of me. My best friend is literally the reason I am still alive. She has helped me recover as I live with CPTSD. I am doing something extraordinary for her life since she did something extraordinary for me,” Bates said. “I am investing my time and life into rebuilding this home. It has given me back my life. I first saw the home in 2017 and got an idea of what needed to be done. It needed all new plumbing system. I designed the laundry room and it came out exactly the way I wanted it too. I put in a brand-new HVAC. I brought in four chandeliers to add character to the home. Most of what I find is at the ReHouse Architecture Salvage Store in Rochester. Some of it is from PinTrest or Ebay. I got a lot of my artwork from local antique stores, garage or yard sales.”


For more information on the ReHouse Architecture Salvage store visit http://www.rehouseny.com


“I brought love back into this home. I put my entire heart and soul into rebuilding it. It is going to be very hard for me to leave it. I put my whole life into this home. I am completely a part of it,” Bates continued. “I remember getting a wooden piece from the Salvation Army in town I thought was beautiful. I really loved the design. When I was able to see the original ceiling in the kitchen, I was amazed that the design matched the original ceiling. I have kept that piece of wood in the kitchen to remind me of that.”


This wooden piece was purchased before the kitchen ceiling was removed to reveal the original design matches. PHOTOS BY JASMINE WILLIS


Bates thinks about every small detail when she works on renovating a historic home. She has special paints, cleaning solutions, and things to look for when she is at the ReHouse store or antique stores. It is not a simple job. It takes a lot of time, energy, passion, and keen eye for the bones and heart of the home.


There are three rooms down in the basement. One is for the laundry room, the other is used for the heating pipes and has a nook easily used for a wine cellar, and the last looks like a skateboarder’s paradise with all the slopes. It is where we find the real treasure of the original homeowners marking memories in the foundation. We find that Made Christmas, 1913, H.F. Shaw is by the brick chimney, on the edge of the slope is Aug. 26, 1913 H.F. Shaw, May, 13, 1910, H.F. Shaw. These marks are made in what was used for the coal in those days. This part of the basement is different since it would hold all the coal for the home. Bates still finds coal down there as she is renovating the home.


Made Christmas, 1913, H.F. Shaw carved into the coal room. PHOTOS BY JASMINE WILLIS

Bates has created a warm feeling in the basement with heating, nightlights, and cleanliness that gets away all the spooks that may still lurk behind.


When it comes to artwork showcasing the home that is a whole other ballpark of home marketing. Bates must find the right vibe to go with the home before it is presented to any potential buyers. She does what is called a staging. She collects things from her own personal life and artwork around the town to present the home. The dragonfly lamp is all she has left of her home in Maryland, and it symbolizes something much deeper for her as she renovates this historic home. The P. Adams Stitch work is older than the home, and it is suggesting a call back to this artist’s native land. The painting of a bridge is from a native of Dansville, and came from a local garage sale. Every single piece of art in this home has a story to tell, and it all connects to the story of the one who purchased it.


One of the four chandeliers that creates character to this old home. PHOTOS BY JASMINE WILLIS

“My dragonfly lamp came with me to this house, since it is all I have left of my home in Maryland. It is my most prized treasure. I like having it with me here, since it makes me feel like I am back to my safe place. It makes me feel like I am back to the place I was before it all shattered. I got this as a gift for myself when I moved into my Maryland home. It is a reminder of wherever I go now it will be perfect sails ahead. I have brought the past and present together in this home,” Bates said.


The original wooden door with original locks that connects to the coal room. PHOTOS BY JASMINE WILLIS

By purchasing an historic home on Greenmount Avenue, Bernstien saved the life of her best friend, Bates, who little by little is finding her way back to rebuilding her soul.

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